When you step into global stardom as a teenager, navigating romance is anything but private. For years, Selena Gomez’s dating life was dissected by tabloid headlines and social media fan accounts. Yet, through every heartbreak, public separation, and artistic era, Selena remained remarkably open about her desire for genuine, respectful love.
Now happily married and entering a peaceful new chapter of her thirties, we are taking a trip down memory lane to look at her most iconic, talked-about relationships.
The Teen Disney Era: Nick Jonas & Taylor Lautner (2008–2009)
Selena’s earliest high-profile romances coincided with her meteoric rise on television and in pop music.
Nick Jonas (2008): In 2008, Selena briefly dated fellow teen idol Nick Jonas while the Jonas Brothers were at the peak of their boy-band fame. Though brief and kept under wraps, the romance famously led to Selena forming an enduring friendship with Taylor Swift, who was dating Joe Jonas at the same time.
Taylor Lautner (2009): While filming in Vancouver in 2009, Selena struck up a sweet romance with Twilight star Taylor Lautner. Though intense media attention cut the romance short after a few months, Selena later reflected on it as a sweet, innocent chapter of “puppy love”.
The Rollercoaster Era: “Jelena” with Justin Bieber (2010–2018)
There is simply no discussing 2010s pop-culture history without mentioning “Jelena”. Selena and pop sensation Justin Bieber first linked up in late 2010, making their official red-carpet debut at the 2011 Vanity Fair Oscar Party.
For nearly eight years, the duo was pop music’s premier power couple, enduring an intense, highly publicized, on-and-off relationship that inspired several of their most critically acclaimed songs, including Selena’s emotional anthem “The Heart Wants What It Wants” and her blockbuster album Revival. After a brief final reconciliation in late 2017, the pair officially called it quits for good in early 2018.
The High-Fashion Chapter: The Weeknd (2017)
In early 2017, Selena began dating Canadian R&B superstar The Weeknd (Abel Tesfaye). The couple made their official debut at the 2017 Met Gala, turning heads on the red carpet with stylish, jet-setting dates across Europe and North America. Though the two split amicably after ten months due to conflicting tour schedules, their romance produced some of the most memorable red-carpet moments of the decade.
The Ultimate Love Story: Benny Blanco (2023–Present)
After prioritizing her independence and self-healing for several years, Selena found a transformative, peaceful romance where she least expected it: with her longtime musical collaborator, Grammy-nominated producer Benny Blanco.
The two had worked together for years on chart-topping tracks like “Same Old Love” and “I Can’t Get Enough” before their deep friendship blossomed into romance in mid-2023.
“He is my absolute everything in my heart,” Selena wrote when confirming their romance. “He has been the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I’ve never been loved this way.”
Going Public: The couple made their official public debut courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game in January 2024, captivating fans with their uninhibited warmth and joy.
The Engagement: In December 2024, after over a year of dating, the couple announced their engagement, with Benny calling Selena his “wife” in waiting.
The Dream Wedding: On September 27, 2025, Selena and Benny officially tied the knot in a breathtaking, intimate outdoor ceremony in Santa Barbara, California, surrounded by family and close celebrity friends like Taylor Swift.
